Long-Distance Friendships

What is the trickiest part of long distance friendships? Unsettled emotions. And what is the one ingredient that sets the unsettled emotions on fire? Silence. Because that is when you start building an invisible wall between you and your friend. Wouldn't it be easier to just talk TO each other instead of ABOUT each other?

Keeping up with our busy lives and friends is already difficult. But when it comes to long distance friendships, it is even more difficult because you don't get to see each other at all. You'd like to think that when you have the other part of your soul - you'd do anything to hold onto it.

People say distance doesn't matter if there is love. I'd like to add: in this day and age, distance matters. You feel a sense of abandonment when your friends and you cannot do anything together. They move on and make regional friends in their respective areas. And that is just the honest truth because life happens. And convenience is also important.

I've never been in the place where I plunged into correspondence with my BFFs and they didn't reciprocate. But I feel as though, the essence of our friendship has been somewhat compromised.  And no one is to blame for that. I've never been the kind of person to have tons and tons of friends, but the friends I do have are incredibly important to me. And that is what makes it hard sometimes. Because you only feel hurt by the people you love.

Life gets busy for everyone. And it seems to get busier the older we get. Marriage, kids, buying houses, paying the bills etc. Or may be just getting your day to day tasks done. Time slips away and before we know it, 3 months have gone by. Now, the good thing about a BFF is that you can go weeks without talking and when you finally do connect, it is like no time has passed. But the time HAS passed, the time that we cannot get back. That is what we fail to understand. Sometimes, our friends get left behind. And sometimes, we don't include them in our milestones, in our big or small life events. They come AFTER the fact.

Sometimes, I hear a song, or look at a Facebook memory... and think about those old times. I've had t to say some tough goodbyes with a brave face on and push forward. But the truth is, I miss my friends. I just wish we didn't put friendships on the back burner when life gets in the way.

To ALL MY FRIENDS, I miss you. Thank you for being there. Wherever you are. Whatever you are doing. I am thinking of you.