Good girls, bad girls.

This is a requested post by my dear friend, Kari.  And I will try my best to provide my opinion about clubbing culture and women. I did a post about alcohol and women some time ago but it didn't cover the club aspect. I talked about a specific rape case on Crime Patrol where men thought it was their obvious right to rape a girl who was drinking at the club. This makes me want to bang my head against the wall, repeatedly.

I've seen many men question why girls go clubbing. To get laid? To dance with their friends? To get hit on by drunkards cause they can't find men elsewhere? Because they are skanks? Because they are slut-bags who want attention from guys? Only if I could count every time I heard a man say, "I don't chase after those clubbing type of girls. I like the stay at home type girls." Yeah, cause the 'stay-at-home' girls who might actually be characterless are Goddesses.

Okay, if I may ask, why do guys go to bars and clubs? For female attention? To get laid? To get drunk? To dance with their friends? OH WAIT. Why did they invent clubs again? Maybe, for dancing and socializing? Yeah, that's right.

So, hello dimwits - ask someone to hammer your head because your brain cells are useless. This post is for guys who think women go to clubs to get their egos stroked for validation. You know what, there probably is a certain percentage of women who do that. Yes, there is a certain percentage of people who go to clubs to get laid. But then, there are people who want to go for the sole purpose of clubbing. It is called having fun with your friends. It is called dancing in a group of people. It doesn't mean I am calling out to you to rub your rocket on my behind. Not all girls who to the club grind on strangers. Not all girls get pissed drunk. Some girls genuinely love raving. Where should they go raving? At the mandir? 

I cringe at the thought that every girl who goes to the club must be a slut. Clubbing culture has changed over the years. Men think that the primary objective of going to the club is getting laid. Yeah, sorry to break your little bubble. It is most certainly not.

Personally, I am very fond of dancing. I love going clubbing. It's another thing that I barely go clubbing maybe 6-7 times a year. That is because I don't have friends who are down to go clubbing that often because of personal restrictions. I would love to go at least once a month. Sadly, my man doesn't like clubbing either. So, I don't force him. He generally doesn't like loud places. But personally, I love it. And if he really thought that I am the 'clubbing chic,' hence, not marriage material - we wouldn't co-exist in one room today. Believe me.

Get your mind out of the gutter. When are you gonna let your orthodox mentality go? I can go to the mandir 4 times a day and wear suits, but I may be a total slut, doing guys left and right, everyday. Would you know? No. Because your assumptions are beyond stupid. Most of the chicks I knew in high school used to dress in hijabs from home and become entirely different when they arrived at school. Their lockers were full of revealing clothes that they weren't allowed to wear at home. One day, a girl asked me if I could do her laundry because she couldn't take her revealing clothes home. She was a different person at school and she used to pretend to be a religious hijabi while going home. Give me a fucking break!

Okay, drinking isn't the best. But if a girl does it for fun - it doesn't give you the license to split her legs. God dammnit. People drive me nuts. I drink, and I go clubbing. Arrest me, okay?

And those who do all these things before their wedding and then pretend to be a Goddess - please. We've seen you get down and dirty, so fool somebody else. You're still a married hoe, pretending to be a good girl because apparently, marriage has purified you and sprinkled holy water on you, right?

Your character is NOT defined by alcohol and clubbing culture. It is not defined by your clothes. It is not defined by any other stupid identifiers that brown people have.

Why do people automatically assume that girls who go clubbing are not girlfriend/marriage material? WHAT IS WRONG WITH THEM? They are just freaking dancing and having a good time with their friends. It frustrates me so much. Not every woman who steps inside the club with heels is looking to sleep with somebody. This is an unfair view on women. IT'S A DUMB FUCKING STEREOTYPE! So, get over yourselves. And shows like Jersey Shore validate such dumb stereotypes. How many women say that men go to clubs are not marriage material? Can you tell how silly this sounds?

This attitude towards women and clubbing culture is fairly stereotypical.. It is entirely unfair and I think it is blown way out of proportion than it needs to be. Clubbing definitely has put up a bad reputation over the years. It has its flaws. People dry hump each other and portray sexuality in a huge crowd. People find private corners and seats to grind and feel up each other. But there are exceptions everywhere. People are drunk idiots, rude and obnoxious. Guys pick fights over stupid reasons. Women get harassed just because they are wearing a certain outfit. They get groped, harassed and hit on by idiots. YES, there is all of that. But if we are hanging out with friends, LEAVE US THE FUCK ALONE.

I go to the club to dance, to hear music that I like and to have a good time with friends. I go for a certain Deejay that I like. Sometimes, I like to get a drink in. Sometimes, you just need to get out of your house and go somewhere. It's fun to go clubbing in a big group. We usually go after birthdays. There are all types of people at the club and they are there for different reasons. So, do not GENERALIZE. I used to go clubbing to blow off steam after a rough week at university. Like come on... don't you see the point yet?

I've seen enough people write off clubbing as a promiscuous activity. People are THICK who think dancing cannot be a reason enough for a girl to go clubbing. It is supposedly for other motives such as getting laid, getting attention from men, getting free drinks and to feed their egos. I can go on and on about this topic but I feel that I have said enough. Let's just review key points for mindless losers:-

1. Women who go dancing at clubs are NOT sluts. (I underlined and bold for a reason!)
2. Some women genuinely enjoy music. If you don't know much about music, then there is no point of me saying anything further. I have a friend who is passionate about trance. So, get over it.
3. Because a girl dresses up for the club, she is NOT asking for attention.
4. If a girl is drinking at the bar, she is NOT asking for rape.

Now, read this post again. And again. And again... until you stop looking at life through a narrow straw. Open your eyes. Stop defaming women and clubbing culture. And those Indian guys who make a massive deal out of it, your sister probably sneaks out for clubbing as well.. Make sure you keep an eye on her before you go pin-pointing other women in skirts. You're welcome =)