A lie is an excuse guarded

Without naming anyone.. I really want to write about/address a topic about friendship. How do you react if your friends lie to you for an extended period of time? How do you feel if they hide things and be secretive but claim to be your 'sister?' How would you feel if you found out from a third person that they have portrayed you in a completely different light in front of others?

The answer would probably be something along the lines of "hurt" or "disappointed." You lose trust in friendship when your own loved ones take the route of lying and cheating you. I read a quote somewhere that said, "Sometimes, your best friends are really enemies in disguise." And to be honest, it is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend. It's harder because you never expect them to do anything to hurt you. There is also a famous quote by Buddha, "An insincere friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind."

When I write about this, I am referring to a situation that occurred in my social circle but isn't directly related to me. But I have a strong take on it because I have never been a fan of liars. I have 'some' friends who have the balls to tell you the truth to your face i.e. "Aditi, I don't like it that you flop last minute on our plans." That is honesty. With that.. I will always watch out the next time so I don't disappoint them. But going behind your back and telling a third person. "Aditi always flops on me and wastes my time" is taking it an entirely different route. And it is so kindergarten. Some people have all the time in the world to create drama.

All I have to say about this is.. what goes around comes around. It's karma. You lie to others.. someone will lie to you and hurt you even more. So, all the pain or hurt that you cause others.. will come back to you someday. That's it. It's not my job to get even with anybody. God will take care of it.

And quite frankly.. there comes a time in life when you just have to let go of all the drama creating friends. The pointless drama only takes away from you and your life and does not do anything positive for you. I'd rather surround myself with people who are genuinely happy and positive. They pass off their happy vibes to you and you remain happy as well. Life is too short to voluntarily tolerate someone's bullshit. If you have an option to get out of it - please do.

And even if you lose a friend or two while creating a positive environment for yourself.. don't worry about it. Sometimes, good things fall apart so that better things can fall together. Everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go. Love the people who treat you right.. and those who don't.. forget about them.