Hopeless romantic?

I had this in mind since Montreal. I have seen some of my close friends go through horrible break-ups this year. I have seen guys taking advantage of them. I have seen guys changing their minds. I have seen them talk shit after dumping them, and going out with the next one right after the break-up. So.. they all came to know it's not worth it. But.. they all become emotionally averse.

I have to deal with their negativity and surround them with the hope of finding someone suitable to their needs. A lot of women are too consumed in the fairy-tale love search, like myself. Honestly, we have to give up the goddamn fairy-tale. It's ruining our lives. Let's face it. There are rarely men out there who will be our knight in shining armour. This also goes on to say, women are no longer "Sati-Savitris" either. It's both ways.

But the point of this post is - I've seen that the nicest girls get their heart broken. The ones who would do anything for their love. The ones who are loyal, committed and honest. The ones who give priority to love and leave behind many other things as a sacrifice. I won't take names, but two of my friends have gone through such horrendous break-ups. It hurts me to see them in a condition where they are tired of dating the wrong people, and tired of being hurt.

Our life is not some Disney movie. We cannot believe in those fairy-tales anymore. Because the reality is harsh. It's much more than just the "one" right man. I might sound outrageous here, but brutally honest as well - don't be so caught up in NUMBERS. Dating more than one guy does not make you a slut. And not finding the "one" by dating three guys does not make you a slut either. Things don't work out. We don't give it our all in every relationship to see it end. I have seen women too caught up in numbers, where they forcefully DRAG their first relationship, to make it their last. Sorry honey, HE is not your knight in shining armour. Please stop dating that douche bag and move on. Because there is nothing in falling in love..

By that above paragraph, I did not mean let any guy that comes your way into your pants. I just meant that 'The One' may not come by dating just 'one' - if that makes any sense. In MY head, it definitely did. We need to change our perception of love. These bollywood movies have corrupted us too much. Perhaps, they should make movies where they show people using others and actually show how many people cheat in their relationships. That's the kind of reality we need to see. The "Prince Charming" crap is not going to happen. No one is going to come sweep you off your feet. He is just gonna do you, and leave you heart broken.

I am not saying, stop watching Disney or Bollywood movies. I am saying, please have realistic expectations. Don't believe everything that men say. Don't believe what they say they will do for you. Don't believe that your first one has to necessarily be the "one." Make love real for YOU. It's gonna take a turnover in perspective, but in the end.. it's gonna be worth it. We owe it to the vulnerable women out there who repetitively get hurt.