Safety Net

Ever had that one guy friend, who liked you a lot? Possibly claimed to love you? The times when you were single, or going through a break up.. he was there to be your support. The qualities he has are exactly what you keep looking for in other men, but may be you cannot feel attracted to him in that way. Yet, you want him to linger around and be there for you (while subconsciously OR consciously leading him on?)

Been there. Done that. High school. There are plenty of women who generate options for themselves. It cannot be choosing a guy off the street - like "Hey option B!" These options are usually people we know, generally our friends, who know us well. Ever felt the amazing emotional comfort your guy friend can provide you with? Yet, you cannot go out with them. You feel like you can find someone better. And if you don't, then he'll always be there. WRONG!

Guys leave too. They cannot wait around forever for something to happen. By leading them on in this direction, you lose your friendship too. Girls always have this "safety net." This one guy that they can rely on if nothing else seems to fit in place. And when he disappears, then you wonder where you went wrong. If he didn't fit your perception of a relationship because of his physical features or something else, why lead him on in the first place?

We adhere to our own needs so much, that we do not realize what that guy might be going through. And he's been there all these months or years, to support you through your bad relationships. Yet, you walk away with another douchebag. What can ya do? Women are just automatically attracted to the BAD guys. If we are looking for the perfect love, and a GOOD guy with all the qualities that we desire.. why don't we take him when he's right there? The truth is.. everyone loves a little bad. Women would rather choose the bad guy, and try to transform him to bring the good out of him instead of choosing a great guy, that is readily available.

Women like to put in the work. I don't know why. But over the years, I came to realize.. that keeping options and back-ups is more than common between women. We might not be thinking it consciously, but we do like to keep "certain types" of guys in their places. We make sure they do not intersect. And when it comes time to pick and choose, we have options. I am sure all of you heard the options and priority quote. This directly relates.

In my opinion, sometimes.. we just need a rebel. Sometimes, we just need a bad boy. If you had to mother the guys in your previous relationships, this confident, and cocky bad boy image rubs off a little bit on you. You want this sort of freshness and a switch of power-control. You want the dude to take care of you, instead of you mothering him. No wonder we see women in relationships with the GOOD guys, often going out to cheat on them with the BAD guys. I wish I could make a distinction between the two, but that would be like an essay. I'll pass. But you get the point right?