Marriage - My very own anticipations.

Let me make this very clear - I don't know a whole lot about marriage. I don't think about it as of yet. It's something that I don't even wanna think about for a few years, at least. I am gonna discuss with you "arranged marriages" and add the flavors of my own experiences in the family.

First off, I am of two religions that are not very different from one another - Hinduism and Sikhism. My parents had a love marriage at a time where there were riots in Punjab between Sikhs, Muslims and Hindus. It was very tough to fight the religion war at that time given the discrepancies. Here's another thing - my dad is the 'number one' person I admire, and probably the last too. I admire him so much, it's not even easy for me to put it in words. He is a complete family man. An ideal husband, and a very inspiring father. He has all the qualities women dream for to have in their husbands. I am not even exaggerating. His qualities and characteristics are things I have used to shape "my ideal man."  He has all the basic qualities that we can think of - he's good looking, honest, sincere, hard working, responsible, emotional, strong and many more. But to the extra-ordinary, it's been 22 years since he got married to my mother, and he is still the same romantic guy she fell in love with. It's just so adorable to watch their love and comedic romance. They're such a lively couple. If I could give an example of a perfect marriage, it would be them. They complete each other. They look so good with each other. He doesn't have any bad habits. He has gone out of his way to keep his family happy. He expresses love for his wife and children everywhere he goes. He barely goes out and prefers staying home with his family. He is the coolest dad ever, my friends love him when they come over. He has a fantastic sense of humor and never lets us get worried about anything. Most importantly, he has been sacrificing his desires and happiness for the last twenty years to keep us happy. We are his first priority, he thinks of himself after. Argh! I can go on forever...

But sticking to the context of this blog, it was hard for them to convince their families of their bond. If I disclose how they met and fell in love, it wouldn't have that same uniqueness. So, I am gonna leave that as something that only I get to know and cherish. But I can tell you this - it was hard for them to form this bond. My mom's parents were super strict and were not ready to get their daughter married into a Hindu family. But it happened. And they were the first couple in our entire family tree, to break the barriers and win their love. After that, there were more love marriages in our family.

If I say, I believe in love marriages entirely because my parents have had a good one, that would be wrong.  I am a sucker for love too. At a time, I also wanted a fairy-tale romance, the type of love that consumes every inch of you. The crazy love where you want to melt into his skin and love him so terribly. Go back and read the previous sentence, I said "at a time." My expectations and beliefs about love have changed over time. Clearly due to experiences and other factors which shape who I am today.

This blog is not gonna be clear on my choice between love and arranged marriages. This is sort of an introduction to what I am gonna support in the next blog, to build a base as to where I am coming from. I feel very proud to be a daughter of such amazing parents and the love is evident. I love them to the extent that I will not marry outside their choice, even if I have to give up the love of my life. If you're a guy reading this, who is interested in me, you might think.. "Ohh! So, her parents are her utmost priority and she is unreliable because she can give up her love anytime." You can think that way if you like. But the truth is, my parents love me way more than I love them. And I kinda like to believe that I have a good taste (disregarding the past) in guys. And something tells me that my parents would be happy with the choice I make.

In a nutshell, I believe in a love and arranged (combined) marriage. More on that later :)