Some people change after marriage. And it is only fair because it's a huge milestone in life. It changes around your life completely. It may change your life, responsibilities, time management and commitments, but it shouldn't change who you are as a person. That's what we spoke about. Why do people act all goody goody when they're married? All of a sudden drinking is a sin, good girls don't go clubbing and some other ridiculous things. Somehow, it was okay for you to do all of that just 5 days before your wedding. But oh, once you sign those papers, you've turned into a nun. You must also forbid from sex for pleasure. Even that's a sin, right? Just do it for babies, the way it was intended. Oh god, I am dying just writing this.
This is why people lose friends after their weddings. Well, only some. Some of my married friends haven't changed in the slightest. They might not have time for you and that is completely understandable. But at least they don't act like they've had a ridiculous moral transformation overnight.
Beware of friends who put on a big happy smile, clap and jump around at your engagement or wedding festivities and act like they care about nothing but your happiness. Steer clear of those people who promise to help i.e. to MC for you, perform for you, decorate for you etc. but in the end, they back out. Expect the least from people. Those who want to help you will do it without you having to ask them. My friends came and helped me with everything and I didn't have to ask them once. They came despite work, school and placements commitments. And by 'they' I mean my soul sister. I will fly anywhere in the world when it's time for her wedding and she wouldn't even have to ask me.
These times are crucial for you to keep your calm and remember that you should be happy for the things that are going right for you. And you shouldn't worry about people and their petty concerns. This time will not repeat itself in your life. It is important to feel happy and just let it all be. I was thrilled to be engaged. I was talking non-stop throughout my entire engagement video because I was concerned about how everything is going. You guys know I am a control freak. And because I organized everything myself, it was even a bigger deal. I had my eyes on the MC, the cake, the slideshows, the performances, the guests, the time, the food and everything else while I was on the stage going through the ceremonies. But I didn't worry about who came and who flopped. I didn't worry about who did what and who offered to help. I am able enough to help myself and I had no expectations from anyone. From those whom I did expect, fulfilled my expectations in every way. That goes to show I know who my real friends are. And that is all that matters. So, chin up and look beautiful. And do not give importance to petty issues because they mean nothing compared to the wave of happiness that is about to enter your life =)
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