The art of spreading gossip.

Guilty as charged. Aren't we all?

I've been thinking about this from a couple of days. Some of the situations I've been experiencing lately are all related to the privacy of one's issues. Here is what I feel, if you have issues with your relationships (whether it be husbands or parents or in-laws), you should refrain from speaking about them to other people. And here is why - because it will backfire. It will not help you. People will only be pleased to hear about your unhappiness.

So.. why are there couples out there that will spill their private issues to anyone and anywhere? I learned this lesson years ago. We all have friends. Of course, we do. And there are times we call them up and vent. That is absolutely fine. Then, why is there a need to go and tell everybody out there? How is that a solution to their problem?

Have you guys heard of the deadliest tool of all? Facebook! It's the worst platform to publicize your problems. I mean, whose approval are you seeking on Facebook? Let's assume a person is in an argument with their boyfriend or husband, what good is gonna come out of telling his friends about it? It's the 'two' people in an argument that need be there for any discussion. No one else is required. I hate it when people drag you into their business when you want nothing to do with it.

Recently, I've come across people that aren't afraid of talking about their issues. Mind you, they are acquaintances. It'd be different if they were friends. I don't get the point. What affirmations are they looking for? I've also realized, some people have nothing better to do. If they are at a party, they just need a reason to talk about themselves or someone they know. No one wants to know about your complex psychological issues. Look at the time and venue! It's a freaking party. You are celebrating other people's happy occasion. And you use this time to bring down other people with you?

I've got one word for you guys: CONFRONTATION. The day someone confronts you, it's over. Because you won't even be able to keep track of the kind of things you've said about people.

Remember to be extra careful about who you confide in. Make sure they are not gossip queens. You never know where your personal issues might be travelling the next day. The best ammunition in this case is silence. Never gossip back to a gossiper. They are more likely to add 3/4 of their own gossip to yours and pass it on.