Mean Girls

I can't help but wonder.. why do girls feel jealous when someone is about to get engaged or married? If someone is gonna stop me and say, "They're not jealous!" then, let me be your guest and prove you wrong. It is justified if you are Carrie from Sex and the City, a 40 year old single woman.. and you are jealous of your married friends. But, why does it happen with my "known" people in my age group?

If I am settling down at 23, then why are other 21-23 year old females acting catty on me? They are not old maids. Most of them have boyfriends and some are single. But I don't get the logic here. If you are a true friend, jealousy should not even exist. You are twenty something, and you have a lifetime ahead of you for finding a partner, or enjoying your singledom, or doing whatever the hell you want. Then, why jealous?

I know so many people that have lost friends at the time of their engagement or wedding. Why do your friends move away when you settle down? Is that a constant reminder to them about what they don't have in their lives? But, what about the ones that are committed and jealous? Are they not secure in their own relationships? Why is it such a big deal if someone has found love?

Is getting married or engaged some kind of a competition? "Oh look.. I made it before you. I win!"
If it isn't a competition, then what is it? Surprisingly, some girls think that a person getting engaged doesn't deserve it. Um, wow. A wedding/engagement is a lifetime commitment of two people and their love. It's not some sort of social achievement that you should feel left out on. Every one has a certain time in life for things. Some people want to study, some want to work, some want to travel, some want to stay single for the longest time.. and then there are some who want to study, work, travel and do everything else while they are married. Probably, because they will have the liberty to do so with the type of husbands they have.

Why is this entire deal made out to be so competition/race-like? Why do people treat it like some sort of a promotion? Like, she got the job and I am still looking for one. I am sure we've all heard of bride envy but I never knew getting engaged could also have similar reactions. I thought about this a lot.. and I figured that "attention" might be one of the factors girls get jealous. But.. isn't a woman allowed one day of attention in her life? Where only she can look and feel her best.. without people telling her that we don't want to out-do you. Why is it so difficult to let a girl have attention for a day? 

There was a point last year when all of my friends were getting married, except me. But, you know what? I was genuinely happy for them. I didn't feel jealous, but I felt lonely. You know when you get that hollow feeling inside and wonder when things will happen for you. That is different from jealousy, because you don't act catty with your friends. You are happy for them and you participate in their happiness.

With being insecure.. some people are really immature too. I don't understand how someone can determine whether you "deserve" to  be engaged or not. Some people think if a girl has had more than one partners in her life, she should not be entitled to a whirlwind romance. Why? Is it necessary that you are supposed to find your life partner by dating one person? Where does it say so? People make mistakes. You learn and that's how you come to appreciate what you have later in life. I would like to stay away from negative people who think like this. How can someone look down upon you and decide that they deserve much more than you? Isn't that a bit shallow?

Also, people happen to judge the amount of 'time' you have been dating before you get engaged. Apparently, if you've only dated a year, it doesn't make the cut. Someone please tell me which book they are getting this information from. Is there a rule of thumb? Please enlighten me. I could use the information.

This is my first ever experience getting the coldest congratulations and responses. There are people that are ecstatic from the bottom of their hearts and then there are ones that try bringing me down because I am experiencing my "highs" right now. I know who all of these people are. I just don't say anything. I am not the kind to call people out on their bullshit. Except, I am. And I just did, with this blog post. Cheers =)