Don't let people contaminate your life.

You know.. sometimes, you just meet great people that bring out the positive you. I met one of my family friends today after such a long time. She is pregnant with her second baby which is uh-mazing! I had needed some contacts for a makeup artist and she was helping me out. I began to tell her about some things that recently happened and why I was feeling low all of May.

When she started talking.. my mouth completely zipped up. Every SINGLE word out of her mouth was like an amazing quote. She had this great positive vibe and colossal enthusiasm for life. She had a completely different outlook on life. Very clearly.. she laid out what matters to her and what doesn't. Gosh.. I can't do that. I was so mesmerized by her.. I just stood there listening to her in awe.

I asked her how she reacts when people hurt her. She said.. "I don't cry or become sad when people hurt me because that is punishing myself for someone else's nasty behaviour. I always smile and laugh to let them know that their words can't knock me down."

...uhm, wow. I am sorry but I am not that positive of a person. I am sure, it is quite evident from the last three years on Blogger. I am more like a roller coaster, I'd be happy and chirpy one day.. pessimistic the next day, and really determined the third day. My mood changes faster than the weather in Toronto. I am not completely negative, but most of the times, I am more neutral rather than positive.

The key is to free yourself from negative people. For some reason.. even if you don't want to kick them out of your life, just distance yourself. Spend your time with people who are smart, happy and likeminded. They should bring out the best in you, not the worst. Your friendships should encourage happiness, not jealousy. You are meant to have a good time, not fight each other. Relationships should help you, not hurt you. Don't linger on with abusive boyfriends who can never treat you right. A woman is usually good at recognizing what kind of space a man is gonna provide her in his life. Don't hang on.. hoping for things to be better. Choose friends who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you. These are people who make you smile, not put a frown on your face. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.

Also.. I'd like to point out something. Sometimes, I get criticized for being negative. I am not a negative person, I just instantly get negative thoughts. And, thoughts are not reality. Here is an example:-
Last year, I logged on to see my final marks and I saw a 46 in History. I cried for 2 hours. I thought I wouldn't graduate. Nish said.. it's most probably an error. I instantly believed that I must have done that bad. I believed that the quality of my essays is crap, and accepted that grade. Just because Nish insisted, I called up my teacher that evening and she said it's not an error. She said that I didn't hand in my last assignment worth 30%. I emailed it to her a week prior to this phone call and luckily it was in my sent folder. I sent her a screen shot of the time and date and also forwarded the essay to her. I got a 70.

My mother always gets the best compliments from everyone. Yes, she is pretty gorgeous but the compliments are usually regarding her personality and nature. At last week's dinner, my dad's friend's wife came up to mom and said, "We were talking about you the other day.. you are so sober and kind." My mom has the best attitude towards life. She takes everything in such a calm manner. Not a lot of people have her figured out but she is just the BEST wife and mother in the entire world. Seldom have I seen a lady be so giving, patient and kind. She is just fabulous. I wish to become like her. When it comes to personality, I am more like my dad.. outspoken, blunt and honest.

I'd like to end this post with a wonderful quote by Robert Tew - Don’t let negative and toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and kick them out!”