Sex & the City - Our version!

Last night, out of the blue - I had a 2 hour conversation with the only girl I've known for two decades, Kanchi. I agree that things change over time but there are some things that remain the same. For example, memories. They serve as a key component upon which you can connect even after years of not talking. Sharing a past means good and bad memories, and the fact that we can gladly acknowledge all our mistakes made in the past and learn from them makes us good human beings. While we were chatting, it felt like I can put little clips together of my horrible past and make a superhit movie about the kind of assholes one has to get through to find a gem.

For the both of us - it's easy to look back and laugh now because we've found 'The One.' But for the ones who are still struggling and going through their share of bad relationships - I wanna say, hang in there. Like us, you will also look back and laugh at this in a few years. I am so blessed to have amazing girlfriends - all the ones listed in my previous blog where I thanked each one. All of them have stories - some good, some bad. I feel like we can re-cast in our own version of Sex & the City because we have so much material to script out an entire movie. 

We've been used, abused, and we've met people who disrespected us in every way possible. We have met people who are physically attractive but dumber than a dead pig brain-wise. We've met not-so-great looking people who are brilliant hearts (keeping the stereotypes alive, huh?) We've met people who hurt us, and disappeared on us. We've met men who've insulted us publicly or talked crap behind our back. We've met the kind who want to get into your pants the first day. We've met the ones who wanna do the same in the second date. In brief, we've met 'horndogs' who have one motive - SCORE. My dear friend Sweeta happened to tell me a story similar to this. Men can be so shallow sometimes, just to get some. It makes me sick. We've had our share of stupid, idiotic, horny assholes that came our way.

I've also had some great relationships which I prefer not to disclose. I can say I've met some good guys in my life too. I was friends with them years after, until we both moved on and some who just didn't prefer being friends. It makes me smile when I think back to those moments. Again, referencing back to memories - it's all about creating those beautiful, lasting memories right? The bottom line is - every relationship taught us something, it wasn't a complete waste. And for the all bad that came our way, don't worry girls - Karma will get them too. It's just about serving your time. 

I wanted to write this blog dedicated to  jerks and also those men who gave me amazing memories to hold on to. If I could go back and do it all over again, I probably wouldn't. Even though I've had quite a painful past, but I still wouldn't change a thing. Because it made me who I am today, and I am sure most of you feel this way. You only have the ability to look back and laugh when you've understand what you did wrong. Once you learn your lessons and don't repeat them - you get the last laugh. 

Memories are precious. Make sure you hold onto the good ones, and eliminate the bad ones. At this point, I am too thankful to God for what I have and the past seems like it will just fade away. To be honest, I have mostly forgotten much of it because I have truly come to appreciate my present. And relating back to my friend here, I think we both stood by each other in a very dependent relationship guiding each other through the good and bad times. It brings a smile across my face when I think of how naive we were. 

Oh, and now that we're onto Sex & the City - I wanna make a few remarks about the characters. I am very much like Carrie in the way I think about romance and approach it similar to her. Also, because I write :) and this is part of the reason why I started blogging in the first place. I think every woman can be like Samantha because believe it or not - there's an animal deep down in all of us, lol. Sam also reminds me of the girl I used to be - when I went through my 'I hate men and I am gonna play with them' phase. I didn't care about breaking hearts and playing with people's feelings (not proud). About Miranda, I am a lot like her because I do have feminist beliefs and surprisingly, all I ever wanted to be was a lawyer. Too bad, I didn't become one. But whenever I watch the show, I can see myself in her in the way she's serious regarding her profession and has no time for developing relationships (I was like that a few years ago when I was preparing hard for university!) I am probably the least like Charlotte, because I am not as naive and innocent like her anymore, and I definitely do not sacrifice as much as her. And that's my mini-analysis of the characters in relation to my personality. 

Sorry, this blog is a little rushed. I am trying to get to sleep because I have to wake up early tomorrow. I hope you girlies have a great night. And don't worry, you have to go through a few stones to get to your gem. But hey, that doesn't mean you go through all the stones in the city trying to find that gem :/ If you know what I mean! Okay, I am gonna log off. Bye now! :)