Distorting real beauty

Hello people.

How are you today? I am tired as hell but I am enthusiastic about writing this blog post due to the fact that I got such a positive response for writing the previous blog. I thought a lot of people would get wrong ideas or would judge me, but I am just satisfied that I could relate to some women and their body image issues.

Although, I would like to make a note. Some people might have got the idea that I was saying all those things in relation to my personal life. I would like to clarify that I wasn't. The man I have in my life is not the one to put me down. Now that this is out of the way, I'd like to continue saying some things that I missed out on.

Porn is not only about bad dialogues and a vulgar representation of women, it is also a source of unrealistic expectations. Guys are so caught up with this "internet stuff" and they forget the "real stuff." I've actually read an article a long time ago that men who watch too much porn are not able to excite themselves to that level in their real life. It is because you create a highly sensational standard for yourself, which IS btw the purpose of porn.

Not only that, it puts US (women) on the bandwagon to "conform" to their ideal scene of pleasure. Relating this back to body image, the "standard" body image that porn has set for the rest of the society apparently distorts REAL body image. There is no harm in healthy sexuality, at all. But think about the BBW women presented in porn. How do you think that makes thick women feel? They are represented in the most degrading scenarios, almost in a mockery - as if fat women are hypersexual. In fact, that is one of the stereotypes against fat women. How is this supposed to make US feel sexy in our sexual encounters?

The problem is, we are comparing (subconsciously AND consciously)  to FAKE women. Here we are drowning in the visuals of perfectly shaped women who may or may not have used enhancements to create that body. Guys are looking at photoshopped nude women, again in the "standard type." Repetition can make anything true. If you hear one thing ten times, soon you'll start believing it is. Guys getting off to a certain type of body with the perfect organs just makes it worse for the real women.

We used to live in a world where we would compare ourselves to our friends, neighbors or people we aspire to be. Then, we started comparing ourselves to celebrities from Hollywood and Bollywood. And these days, we are competing with pornstars? Give it up. I don't even understand why guys want their women to look like pornstars. Well, you certainly wont' want them to ACT like one.

Again, I don't have anything against the whole idea of watching or liking porn. People might completely differ from my opinion about objectification of women. In fact, many argue that it is empowering in a way because they make so much money. I am just against the whole idea of what it is perceived to be these days. In fact, I also think that the porn industry has a major contribution to increasing surgeries today. Boob jobs are old story. People are moving on to some high-profile surgeries of removing fat from I don't know where and sticking it God knows where. What is the point? God gave you the body he gave you. Don't ruin it, by thinking you don't have "assets" that are big enough or something equally idiotic.

And for those women who don't have "enough junk in their trunk" or have "too much" that it surpasses sexy - remember this, YOU are your OWN definition of sexy. I don't give two shits about how I dress because I feel good inside. You can only truly feel sexy when you are comfortable in your skin. How many women today tell their partners to "turn off the light" or not look at them while they are getting intimate? I can start counting on my finger-tips already, because there's many. They'd feel comfortable if you appreciate what THEY HAVE instead of telling them what they SHOULD have.

This highly sexualized culture affects both men and women in various ways. And only we take charge of our sexuality, so only WE can fix it. Start with gaining the right perspective and handling it with the right kind of attitude. Feel good about yourself. In your relationship, there are only TWO people. You and your partner. There is no Pizza Guy, no Auto-Mechanic and no Teacher. Let's go back to living our real lives, shall we?

Okay, now I've made peace with this topic.