Women's psyche OR psycho women?

Remember that blog I wrote a loooong time ago about women attacking each other? When the guy is the culprit and the "other" women ends up becoming the target as opposed to the true culprit.

Click here to find out which blog I am referring to!

 This is something, but not exactly. I wanted to write about this from the last few months but did not get the chance to. I did all my readings last night and got to school early (because of the rain), so I thought I shall blog before I leave for class, which is at 11:00 am.

One thing I have learned about myself, as a woman, and about other women.. is that sometimes, we are just complete dimwits. Seriously, the moment we are blinded by another woman (in any sort of competition), we become dumb as a freaking rock. Why are women so intimidating to each other? We have automatic reactions of jealousy, envy, and hatred. We use labeling much more than men do, and still blame them for the quick labels such as slut, whore, etc. A "slut's" definition for a man and woman is completely different.

Men usually define sluts as "girls who have cheated on them" or "women who are just too bold for their own good." Basically, in a man's dictionary, a "slut" is a woman with the morals of a man. We are expected to be feminine, shy, less talkative and to wishfully complete men's wishes. This is just the way society perceives some women to be. And when a woman is outrageously bold, speaks her mind, enjoys sex as much as men do and finds no shame in admitting it, debates and makes sure her voice is heard, she is a "slut."

Women's definitions of a "slut" is rather imbecile. If we don't like a girl, she's a slut. If we don't like that a girl wears full on makeup to school, she is a slut. If we see a woman with a man we like, or the man we used to be with (who is now your ex and is NOT at all obligated to remain single after he has dumped us), we still think she is a slut. If a girl talks about her relationships (the number) or talks about sex explicitly, she is a slut. If a woman owns designer bags, wears classy clothes and dresses up nicely at all times, she is a slut (assumption being half of them are gifts from men.. probably for sexual favors?) Even if you are a girl who wears decent clothes and talks to no one at school, and sit in a corner by yourself, you would still be labeled as "something." Women have a huge dictionary for other women and the act of labeling just never seems to stop. If a girl has X amount of Facebook friends, she is a slut. If she is wearing a hot dress and posing into her washroom mirror, the assumption is she wants her body to be admired; hence, she is a slut. The list is ENDLESS.

Do you see where I am going with this? If you don't.. then listen up. I really don't know many women (there are a few exceptions) who would stop by to compliment another girl. I always compliment everyone for their hair, dresses, makeup skills, talent (whether it be dancing, singing or whatsoever) intelligence, humor and so on. How hard is it to appreciate another women without signing up yourself for that "automatic" competition zone, where you obsessively have to be better at EVERYTHING the other woman is apparently good at. This is not hypothetical, and neither am I exaggerating. I know SO many women who are of this nature. Even if two women are competing for something meaningful, the meaning gets lost along the way somewhere. Because in the midst of it, it is not really the competition or its reward that matters, it is just that thrill of victory women love to achieve when they know that they bested another lowly woman. And MEN are stereotyped to be "hyper-competitive?" I think NOT! I think it's us blockheads!

I don't want to attack my own kind, but I mean whatever I write. I feel that most women are always subconsciously or rather consciously competing with other women for a lot of things. Men don't even have to work hard to bring out this competitive streak in us, it is automatically presented by us. Put a man in a room with two girls, and both the airheads will be competing for sexual attention from that man. I don't know if this is the way we are supposed to function, psychologically. An ugly side of us, is all about power. May be the competition thing stems from the many decades women have been suppressed by patriarchal societies. May be it is because it is something we never had before, and now that we have it, we tend to use it rather viciously. I think it's time for these women to focus some attention towards their true emotions and intellect, to find out whether these competitions mean anything to them. Fight for the things that are worth fighting for. I have seen women fight with other women for men who they don't even want to keep; it is just for the criteria of winning from another woman.

In addition, I think women who have a low self-esteem tend to be in a continual cycle of competition. Instead of tackling the factors for their low self-esteem, they exercise whatever amount of power they have towards another woman. What really pisses me off is when smaller women think they are superior to other women because they are plus size. Again, as mentioned a BILLION times.. we ALL come in different sizes, shapes, colours and what not. NO ONE has superiority over the other. As common sense as it sounds, it is actually NOT that common for a woman to make sense of this. Women assess other women on the scales of physical attraction 24/7 to build up their self-esteem. I am not saying I have never done this. We all have at some point. But now that I think of it, it's just foolish. Our own perception of self-worth should not come outside of ourselves, from other women. We should perhaps be introspective and look within us for that self-esteem, instead of engaging ourselves in unhealthy means of competition.

There is a lot that could be said about this topic. I can go on forever. But I think I've made the point I wanted to make. Go out there and be friends with a woman you secretly admire (and never admit because you're too afraid of being judged by her - ANOTHER issue with women). Go compliment women who you think are worth it. Comment or like links on each other's wall if you appreciate a woman's taste in music. There is no harm in saying things you think inside your head. More than half of the time, we are usually sitting on Facebook stalking the bitch we hate. Or stalking the people we think are beautiful inside or out. Might as well admit it! Be friendly to each other. There are plenty of men out there who are DYING to cause conflict between us. We don't need to create this for ourselves, all the men will go out of work :)