Slow down, bro.

Why? Why do men come on too strong in their first few dates? Other than the fact their penis is still intact? The last time I checked, you were to be on your best behavior.. at least for the first few dates. Relating back to the "fast forward" blog post, people expect things to come extremely fast. Why can't you stop and wait for the other person to be on the same page as you? Unless you're trying to creep her out and never have you call her again..

And talk about double standards.. men who attempt bold gestures or come on too strong are generally considered "romantic" and when women do it, we are  either desperate or psychotic? A man out there who would like to justify that? Please do. I'd like to hear your senseless justification, please enlighten me :)

What I mostly hear from guys about coming on too strong is the fact that they want to leave an impression of someone who wants to move forward with you, and avoid being in the "friend zone." You can do that without your dick showing up in your personality. There's ways of leaving good impressions on people that might make them want you as something more than a friend. You needn't be sexual for that.

Also, I feel that men who have had a lot of experience with girls find it more comfortable to make bold gestures in a first date and say or do things that might not be acceptable to us. Most guys would assess the factors of the situation and act accordingly. In fact, I feel that most guys would be hesitant of coming on too strong and coming across as needy. But those who have a history with tonnes of women find it absolutely normal to do so. Just something to consider.. I could be wrong.

Another thing, it also may mean that the guy has NO CLUE about the dating world and they don't even REALIZE that they're coming on too strong. But who am I kidding? All the guys out there these days know the dating scene. I don't know about you guys but it puts me on the defensive because guys who come on strong at first are quick to end relationships. They are particularly looking for certain things. And if they don't get a response from you, they will quickly move on to someone who will give in to them.

So to sum it up, women usually think that the guy is just interested in getting laid if he's coming on too strong. And for a person like me who is not interested in any of this, might think what a creep! It's best to have your guard up if you are dating someone like so. It is probably not gonna last into something meaningful.

Bottom line, it's about YOU. And you should honor your own needs. If it's unacceptable to you or you just cannot seem to take things at a jet speed, YOU should set the pace and check whether he will slow down for you or not. If not, then you'd know, it probably wasn't even worth it =)