Intimacy's a bitch.

 A massive bitch, for real. It's hard to get involved with people, and hope for "no emotional attachment." What am I getting onto here? The fact that women jump to conclusions too fast. Or the women who do more than they are supposed to on the first date. Yup, the "first date." There is so much pressure on all these heart-broken women in the field, not to get hurt again. And I see most of them, trying to figure out things before-hand in hopes of being precautious for their next relationship. Been there, done that.

Ever met a person the first day and start making assumptions already? The more you figure them out, the more you want to get away but you can't? Trying to figure things out too fast, mostly does not work. Skipping to conclusions too fast, could assist you in making possibly the wrong decisions. Ever been on a date and didn't wanna make a move too fast, yet it happened anyway? It feels like shit later on. Especially, when you realize that crossing your limits on the first date may possibly mean that there is not gonna be anything else in the relationship, but that. I have almost never ended up in a situation like this. One reason is because it takes me a while to get comfortable around people I've never met before (despite my over-friendly nature).

I've heard many stories along the lines of "I trusted him so much.. I gave up everything for him too soon!" Well, why did you? Nothing should happen too soon. There should be a certain line of control over being physical at least, if not emotional. What do women regret the most? Being physically involved with someone and starting to feel the emotions, only to figure out that it was just about the hormones for the guy. That's every man's dream. I think they call it "no strings attached." I don't wanna be in that place, ever.

Nothing should be done too fast. Over-giving does not allow your relationship to grow in a way it should. In fact, it probably slows down or eliminates the growth. It gives the other person the idea that you were looking for something physical. Again, this is just how "I" think. I could be wrong. But I believe that some things should be left until the relationship reaches a certain point. Besides, if you over-give on the first date, there are chances the second date might not even happen. Giving too much too soon is by far the biggest relationship mistake made by both men and women. I think it just suffocates what you could have had, and turns it into inaccurate "assumptions" from both sides.

If you're dating someone you don't know that well, and it's your first date, you probably want to be on your best behavior (kind of common sense). People who have sex on first dates - I am sorry I have to be judgmental here but *sluts* It happens a heck lot, and I find it revolting. I think people come across needy and desperate this way. And if you give the guy this sort of an impression, he will probably keep you a string and not ever take you seriously. It hinders you from getting into a proper relationship. But if you're both looking for fun, then just be it.

In my opinion, a little self-control goes a long way toward attracting the kind of men that YOU want. Apparently, I am good at that (Yes, I am officially bragging here). I have never rushed into anything or done things too fast. If I am not happy with the pace of things, I demand for the other person to pause as well. And if he can't. Then he can gracefully leave and be with someone else.
I can say a lot more, but sometimes I have to hold back from writing things on my blog. A lot of people are judgmental and I know that I always say that I don't care about what people think. This is one of the reasons I started this blog, to voice my opinion without having to hear anything from someone. So far it has worked, and even if I do get talked about, it does not bother me. So, in the upcoming blogs.. I might discuss the "physical element" of love. I guess, I wrote about emotions far too long.