Why is it that women have to work so hard for men to show true emotion? It takes a lot of nagging, whining, and "those conversations" for them to correctly describe their feelings. Like, are you expecting a medal for identifying the right feelings for YOURSELF? I truly don't understand.
Fear of rejection? Fear of not having the same feelings returned? Yes. That is very much justifiable for any human being. But when someone is throwing yourself at you, and asking for some sort of emotional commitment and you act like you don't care when you actually do - that's nuts. Why do you men form a wall around you? Not to get hurt? That's fine. But what if someone is genuine with you? You can't use the same formula with every woman, ya know? I know a lot of you out there are afraid of getting hurt and have certain insecurities, and the pressure of manliness of course but sometimes, it's worth to show how you truly feel before the other person starts to feel that you don't give two shits.
Feelings are NOT feminine. Yes, we definitely have more of them in every way but YOU have them too. Covering yourself up in a shell won't hide the fact that you're a human and you too have a heart, like any other human being. We know you want much more than just food, sex and your car in life :/
You too want a stable relationship, like any woman would want and someone you can love. Admitting it is not gonna make you a wuss. I am not saying you should open up to everyone in the world so they can hurt you. But at least do so when you see someone is worth it.
I acknowledge that we are socialized in such a way. You know.. pink is for girls, blue is for boys? Crying is for girls and being tough is for boys? And that's why it appears that men have a safe guard and women are just weak and vulnerable. That's just the way society is. I am not questioning it. All I am saying is just - there's no harm in expressing yourself once in a while. And giving your girlfriend a reminder that you too have a romantic self that's hiding under layers of your macho-identity. Men express differently than us. We are more verbal than them, and they usually express things through their actions. Most of the times, they just expect you to know certain things out of the blue, without being told. I am sorry honey, I am no psychic here. I am a woman. I need to be TOLD once in a while. I need reminders.
Referring to the title of the post - I used the words piggy bank because guys let emotions build over time like you would collect money in your piggy bank. They usually explode at a time when everything is unbearable and they can't take it anymore. Likewise, breaking the piggy bank open because it's full. (Try not laughing at my weird analogies, lol). Don't do that. It's not good for you. You are only gonna stress yourself out more. We don't wanna be yelled at for a series of events that you noticed or observed over the period of 6 months on one RANDOM day that you decide to explode. That's now how things fly with us. Thank you.
P.S. You men are weird creatures.
Showing emotions doesn't make you a girl, it makes you human.
ReplyDeleteBut, this isn't just a problem with men, it's quite a unisex problem. I know girls who have incredibly difficult times expressing their emotions. In fact, so much so, that these girls meet plenty of guys who willingly open up to them, but they do not respond in the same manner even though the feelings are mutual.
Why? I don't know, but assuming its a masculine issue is incorrect.
I do agree that more men are prone to such emotionally reserved behaviour than women are.
I totally agree with you. I forgot the flip side of the coin. Women are like that too!
ReplyDeleteBut I am the kind of person who will perfectly word her feelings to get my emotions across to the other person!
I guess each individual has their own reason as to their reserved behaviour and it's really up to them to open up to whoever they want.
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ReplyDeletenot all men are like that tina
i can understand the way you were feeling last night was horrible and i agree with you on some points and yeah god bless you always you are such a good writer :)
keep smiling alwaaaaaayssss :D
To be honest, I was referring to myself when I mentioned the girls who have extreme difficulty expressing themselves.
ReplyDeleteBut, Im glad you can do it with a bit more ease :)
Wow, I had no clue.
ReplyDeleteI mean, I always thought you are more outgoing than me. But then again, outgoing doesn't mean emotionally outward. I really did not know that about you :/
Hehe, now you know. And noo, no way hahaha, you are waaaaaaay more of a social butterfly than I am. In fact, as creepy as it may or does sound, I'm convinced my mum would absolutely love it if I was like you.
ReplyDeleteBut I like reading your blog, because it makes me realize, I should probably write down my own feelings, too. That's one of my biggest problems, I do not really come to terms with my feeling, it's easier for me to brush them off, and move on. But, they do come back and haunt you later on, and when they do, it sucks.
feelings*
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