Relationship revenge?

LMAO. I would never say this. But I found it
funny and perfect for this blog :D

As I was out with the girls today for lunch, three of us randomly came up with this topic. "That's the best revenge of all: happiness. Nothing drives people crazier than seeing someone have a good life. Especially if it's your ex." They sort of expect you to be miserable after you are ditched or dumped. Some of them expect us to sob over them  and abstain from getting into a relationship for long periods of time. Why? I know it's a fact that people CANNOT tolerate other people's happiness. But let's just stick to the ex for the context of this blog, else I will have to ramble-on forever.

Why is it that ex boyfriends or girlfriends find it exceedingly intolerable to see their partner happy post the break-up. I mean, if I wasn't happy with you, and someone else is doing a better job, why are you envious of it? Or even if the partner is not dating someone, and is generally happy being single... why is it hard to digest? Is it absolutely necessary for a person to go through the sobbing period after a break-up? What if you weren't happy at all? And you had barely any attachment? Shouldn't it be the quickest break up to get over?

Well, here is one reason why you can't see them happy. Maybe you still love them. And it pinches you to see that they are doing well without you. And then it makes you think whether there were any real feelings at all during the relationship? The sobbing period should not be a measure of how much you THINK that your boyfriend/girlfriend loved you. Some people are just strong, and are able to build themselves back up in a fraction of time as opposed to others who like taking their time dealing with their emotions. I mean, for some people healing could be quick. Okay, I am going off track.

Hypothetically, if I found out that my ex was doing great in life, I would probably be happy instead of being envious. No, I am not just saying this for the purpose of this blog or to sound all goody-goody. If things didn't work out with me, they are ought to work out with someone else. But, why should I sit here and think uselessly comparing myself to her? It's a complete waste of time. Think about this. Your exes were an important part of your life at one time. Unless things ended really brutally. It happened with me, but it doesn't bother me if he is doing good. Not that I know or check on it, but still. And anyway, one day someone will walk into your life and make you understand why it did not work with anyone else in the past. So in the end, it doesn't even matter. Live and let live!

Wishing the worst for someone is not going to help you in any way. Karma is a bitch and it will bite them in the ass when the time comes if they did something wrong to you. Some feelings are strong and take time to dissipate. But come on people! Stop faking your happiness after your break-ups! Even though this is a strong tactic these days that girls and guys use to get back at their exes, in most cases, they know it's a trick (that's if they have a brain). So don't waste your time putting on a show, because both of you know under what conditions you broke up... unless you wanna get back together!

Most of the times, this whole revenge deal is just about left over feelings and jealousy. As I said in my previous blogs, it is EXTREMELY important to get a closure in your relationship. Else, you will be left thinking many useless things. Being bitter about things will not help you. It will just mind fuck you. So, it's better to end things completely and leave nothing for discussion. You should say everything once, so later you don't sit there thinking "what if." And in my case, it was his problem that he treated me like crap. I would still have compassion if I ran into him somewhere. I wouldn't fake laugh or hold someone else's hand to show him that I am happy with someone else. This is so kindergarten. Wish well for everyone.. God is watching.. That's all I have to say. Arsh, I hope you are happy with this long blog to read, as you requested it <3