Hi,
This is going to be the beginning of a series. I promise I will actually commit to writing the series this
time. I think I need to vent more than anything.
Note: The following description has been restricted to the
matter of this post. This description doesn’t include the fact that I am
blessed with a wonderful family and some amazing friends.
If you are new to my blog or don’t know me at all – I would
describe myself as the following: -
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Had depression in teenage years
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Was subject to bullying & harassment all
throughout middle and high school
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Had Binge Eating Disorder after university
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Had irregular periods in my early 20s
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Known to be moody (mood swings, depression, and
anxiety)
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Sleep problems in my early 20s
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Always suffered from body image issues (however,
less sensitive to that now)
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Contain zero motivation to maintain a healthy lifestyle
(suffering from chronic fatigue)
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Always had excessive hair growth all over my
body
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Weak immune system (prone to getting sick at
least 4-5 times a year)
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Sensitive skin (I get boils, skin tags, rashes,
in-grown hair infections etc. quite easily)
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Low self-esteem (only feel at best when I play
with makeup – because it's therapy to me)
I didn’t use WebMD to diagnose myself. These are true symptoms
that I have experienced from my teenage years. Most of these symptoms persist
in my life. Some of you as my loyal readers, might know that I have
talked about bullying, weight-loss, weight-gain, body image, and a lot more on
my blog over the last several years. Sometimes, you need to remind yourself of
the older you to see how far you’ve come. This post is dedicated to some recent
medical findings that took a toll on me.
One: I have been diagnosed with PCOS. Two: I diagnosed
myself with PCOS years ago. My family doctor didn’t have the proof to support
my claim. Every time I would go in for blood tests or ultrasounds, it would
come back normal. I have undergone 5 ultrasounds and 4 blood tests
over the last 3 years. I have seen different specialists and have had various
opinions. I finally have enough information to share. I have been wanting to
write this from weeks!
I don’t want to write a 3-page post, so I decided to
condense it in parts. This will be Part 1: Detection.
Detection of PCOS:
My personal experience with detecting PCOS was when I found out about it through friends. When I heard their symptoms, I could relate to
many of them. Suddenly, so much from my past medical history starting making
sense. I have been borderline with hypothyroidism a few times. Every time I took a re-test, it came out normal. Same goes for Diabetes. My family
has a history of Diabetes and I was warned by my family doctor years ago. I always
had more body hair than anyone else I knew. My claims were always dismissed by
my doctor. He would say, “South Asian
women have hair.” When I complained of irregular periods, he would say, “It’s common – nothing to worry about.” When
it finally got to a point where I wanted to prepare my body for
family planning in the next 2 years, I set out to get answers. For doctors, my issues warranted a “reactive approach”
such as giving me synthetic hormones to regulate my period instead of a “proactive
approach” which would mean diving deeper into WHY my body is reacting the way it is. I
decided to take matters into my own hands. I am guilty for putting on extra weight. But I began to understand, that PCOS is contributing to the weight
gain in ways I didn’t know. Insulin is directly related to PCOS. I have a very
unhealthy relationship with sugary foods. I started putting two and two
together. The ultrasounds requested by my family doctor was generic pelvic and
transvaginal. They did not request something specific to consider my uterus,
and fallopian tubes. There came a time in 2016, where I started bleeding for
months. I would have a period for 16 days and then spot for 10. It has
continued since January 2016 until present.
My mom, who has played a huge role in supporting me mentally
and emotionally got me a reference to one of the best gynecologists in the
area. During my first appointment, she looked at me said, “Before the end of this
year (2017), I am going to get you answers.” She said that because I suffered neglect from my family doctor who really wasn’t focusing on
the big picture. All I wanted was an answer as to what IS wrong for my periods
to be disordered to this extent. I finally got an answer in January 2018. It’s
a little too late, if you ask me. Had I received the attention I deserved from
my family doctor in the first place, I probably wouldn’t have to waste 2 years
going through what I did. But better late than never.
This is not to say that I can escape the blame for being in
bad shape when it comes to weight. But I cannot even arrive to a conversation
about symptom control or resolving issues when I was missing a diagnosis. It isn’t my doctor's fault that my tests kept coming back clear. But it is his fault because he kept requesting very generic testing instead of referring me
to a specialist. I had a Hysterogram which revealed that there are little cysts
present. Arriving to pain point #2 – it also revealed that I have a small “polyp”
housed in my uterus. I didn’t even know what a polyp was until I was told I have
it. I was told I can leave it or have it removed via surgery. I chose the
latter after much research and obtaining opinions from various specialists. It’s
a day surgery that will get rid of it. However, there is no guarantee of reoccurrence. It doesn’t really have a cause. It just
appears– like a skin tag. For someone like me who is paranoid of visiting
hospitals (I get queasy) – I was told I would be operated under anesthesia. Am I
scared? Hell, yes. But do I have a sense of relief that I NOW know what was
wrong all these years? Heck yeah! Do I wish that I had done something sooner
instead of blindly relying on my family doctor? YES! I have learned a lesson here. You should be proactive
about your health. When my parents used to go to their doctor even with the
slightest of issues, I used to think they’re wasting their time. Little did I know
– they were being responsible for their health and proactive with taking
control of what COULD become bigger if left unattended. I know, a lot of you
can relate to this. We let issues escalate. And then, cry about them.
It was different for me. I was actually crying for help but I
just didn’t end up receiving the right recourse from the medical professionals I
relied on.
My apologies, this post is a little longer than I anticipated.
This sums up the “detection” aspect of PCOS. In the next 2 parts, I will
discuss body mechanics in terms of PCOS. In the final part of this series, I will
discuss the resolve. It will include both modern science & Ayurveda.
My request to you all is: please share your experience with
PCOS/PCOD in the comments below. You can post anonymously under my blog link,
if you do not feel comfortable with personal details. But I can really use some
insight from your experiences. Thanks for reading!
I’m now speculating I might have something as well. Maybe not the same as you but good god, cramps don’t just suddenly become this brutal. My anxiety has been good and under control the past few months but at its worst caused me to bleed out for 8-10 days twice a month. All with extreme fatigue.. I wanna day maybe I’m just lazy or not- I’ve always had chronic fatigue but man this was something else. Anyway, the only thing I can offer here is that anxiety fucks you more than you know. My period is normal ish now minus the hellish war that rages in my uterus for the first two days hahahaha... anyway welcome to womanhood... next time I’ll take a penis and one X and one Y thank you very much.
ReplyDeleteI'm going to share my story because I feel that this issue is so prevalent in South Asian/Middle Eastern women and we do NOT take it seriously.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was 13, I got my first period. Just spotting. Then for a year - nothing. My mother during that time noticed that I would sleep alot, always complain of being tired, was not concentrating properly at school and had hair loss/dry skin. I turned 14 and my mom took me to see a specialist straight away. My mother is known to make herself heard when something is bothering her lol. So the doctor took me seriously. I was instantly ordered an ultra sound for my ovaries. Had blood tests done to check for thyroid levels and BAM! Hypothyroidism and PCOS. I mean if we're talking weight loss issues this is probably the mother of all of them. I was like you, prescribed 'reactive' medication to kick start the menstruation, along with birth control pills, thyroxine and glucophage (Metformin HCL). And then I spent some miserable 4 years dealing with all the lovely symptoms of both these syndromes. Here's the funny thing. The doctors always focused more on medication rather than telling me to focus on my overall health and well being. Then, I finally found an amazing endocrinologist. Not only did he motivate me for weight loss, but when I DID lose weight, he retested me and told me to stop taking birth control, reduced my dosage of Metformin and Thyroxine. But this was all based on the promise that I would maintain my weight. Well anyone with any of these diseases knows what a shitty battle that is. Its such a bloody vicious cycle. Weight gain - PCOS - Thyroid issues- Weight Gain. Then follows the depression, body image issues, fatigue and just over all feeling disgusting (Bloated, constipated and god knows what else). Periods are always an event and preceding that is a prolonged period of PMS. It's been a tough journey for sure. All of these issues aside, what I sadly struggled with the most was trying to explain this to my spouse. It was so hard for my partner to understand that if it takes someone X amount of effort to lose weight, it would take me twice as much - with just hypothyroidism - and thrice as much with both! That struggle broke me over the years and I would always question - why me? But the silver lining is, it CAN be fixed. It just requires the determination of steel. Weight loss is going to be a life long journey especially if you love food and like you said - have an unhealthy complicated relationship with sugar.