Treat others well

Hi blog.
It's been a long time. It's rather bizarre how I've stopped doing this. But trust me, there were reasons.

I have a couple of things to say today.
I've learned - that before you pour yourself into the well-being of others, make sure you're not running empty. Self-love is important. Very important.

Not only have I lost myself,  but I've just manoeuvred my feelings in a way that they aren't visible to others.  I find that silence means peace - even for things that need and deserve a fight. I used to be the girl who always voiced her opinion, even if that meant opposing the world. I've changed, I guess. But not for the better. Because I am exhausted. I can't protest the same things anymore. Things I've said a thousand times. Situations I've experienced over and over again.  A part of you dies inside when your voice is unheard. And I am the kind that likes to not voice my opinion, expecting that the other person will just feel it themselves.

My mother always tells me that nearly all things get better with time. The operative word being 'nearly.' And other things just don't.

You might not mean to offend others but that doesn't mean you are not responsible for your own actions. I strongly believe that words hurt more than physical wounds. You can never put them back in your mouth. Once heard - they stay with you forever; unless you have a selective memory (which I don't!) Just be kind to others. Play your part in making the world better. Even if you don't like those people. I've said a thousand lies to bring people together. Because words can either create magic or destroy you. Words are power. Either you use them for everyone's advantage or someone else's disadvantage.

Whether you're fifteen or fifty-five, you take charge of your tongue. When you insult someone,  you reveal so much about your own character and where you're headed in life. Your flaws show up so much more when you're discussing someone else's flaws.

Perhaps, sometimes you need to minimise the time you spend with certain people to maximise the amount of happiness you can experience. Because some people will never change. So, instead of telling them about their actions - you can manage your own reactions. So, just do you. Own your life. You only get one. And stop trying to sell yourself to people who aren't interested in buying anything that you have to offer.