He put a ring on it.. finally.

Post #6: Your current relationship. If single, discuss how your single life is.

In love.

Committed and loyal.

......and, happy.


I am soon going to be engaged to a wonderful man. This following post about my fiancee is going to be very envy-inducing. So, this is a warning to those fragile jealous hearts.. you are probably going to burn. 

He is the best thing that has ever happened to me. It was a love that was accidental and yet extremely captivating. We've held each other captive for 2 years now. So, that's a good thing. Haha.

I've already wrote a lot about my relationship and I don't want to repeat it all. I am gonna keep it nice and simple. There are a very few lucky people in life who find love. If you want me to be a tad bit more cheesy, then I'll say.. "true love." I went from being emotionally detached from the world to head over heels in love. People change according to situations. Sometimes, other people come along and change us. I was this stuck-up girl.. with ego touching the ceiling and no faith in love. The concept was almost alien to me 2 years ago after huge disappointments in life. But I guess.. if someone right comes along.. it changes all of that.

Don't get me wrong.. being single was freaking awesome. I loved the attention. We all know that single girls get the most attention because there will be guys everywhere trying to hit on you. No one ever tries to hit on a girl in love who is committed to someone already. So yes.. single life was pretty darn amazing. I loved being the centre of attention. I went to parties and danced my ass off with friends. I had no "emotional baggage." And your mind stays free. Falling into a commitment wasn't in the plans for me for at least a while. But hey.. life never goes as planned.

My relationship is very imperfect. For those who envy.. my relationship is flawed like everyone else's out there. The cliche concept of a "perfect man" and a "perfect relationship" is bullshit. We've been through 8 months of hell together. There has been yelling, crying, insulting, putting down each other, not understanding each other, playing the blame-game and purposely/unknowingly hurting each other. It wasn't pretty in the beginning. But after travelling through that rocky road.. we are finally walking on an even pavement. It takes a while to get there. You gotta walk through the rocks and ditches.

He is not a perfect man. I am not a perfect woman. We acknowledge each other's imperfections and work with them. I fill in the void where he is missing something and vice versa. A relationship is a lot of work, contrary to many people's thinking. Some people might come onto Blogger thinking.. her relationship is easy. He flatters her and buys her presents and she is head over heels. End of story? Honey.. grass always looks greener on the other side.

It takes a lot of compromise, sacrifice, understanding, ego taming, trust, appreciation, self-awareness, communication, affection, truth-telling, honesty, forgiveness, friendship, time apart, values, patience and tolerance, passion, drive, respect and consideration, unselfishness, a sense of humor (believe it or not), physical and emotional compatibility, reciprocity, realistic expectations, and crazy, head over heels, silly, out of the world, Bollywood LOVE to keep OUR relationship going.

Yes, it needs all those things..

Accepting each other fully and respecting each other for our differences has really made a difference. We are the complete opposites (for the trillionth time). And to keep us two opposites connected.. love alone is not enough sometimes. You need other ingredients in a relationship to maintain a healthy balance.

Another thing is to take responsibility for your own happiness. Now we know when to stop when we are arguing. We used to argue for several hours before. It's us who can choose to be in a relationship with another person and it is our responsibility to ensure joy and happiness from it.

Admitting your mistakes is also a big one! Now we say sorry and recognize that we have said something hurtful. I never used to say sorry, even when I was at fault. But it solves a million problems. Just be man/woman enough to humble yourself and apologize sincerely. No excuses or justifications.

Every relationship has disagreements. It's up to you how to handle them or react. Oh gosh.. this post is turning into one of those "love guru" advice forums. I am not trying to do that.. just sharing my meaningful real life experience.

Watch out for a new post tomorrow =)


PS: Because I am running one late.. I have another post due at the end of tonight. *Wayyyyy to go.. procrastination queen!*