Men love difficult women

Okay, on my drive home from Humber.. I thought about a lot of things. I didn't sing as usual. I wasn't in a good mood as usual. I love driving. It's one of my favorite "me" times. I love driving around with music and I sing along. Today, I was on the verge of crying.. which has been happening quite often these days. I think I am just too emotional these days; my hormones are acting up on me. And not to blame only the hormones, the situations also haven't been like a trip to McDonalds either. No happy meals for me at the moment.

The nature of men is to take on challenges. We've all heard that they don't wanna take home girls that are easy to. They'd normally go up to one at the bar who looks interesting and hard to get, and they'll try their luck. They like to chase after girls who aren't needy. If something is hard to attain for a man, and if he thinks he can't have it, the first thing he will do is go after it. Who wants to go after someone who is readily available?

Likewise, when you move on to the next step and enrol yourself in a relationship, the same rule applies in a different context. If you become too desperate or needy in a relationship, they're not gonna wanna have you there. I am not the needy kind, or at least I wasn't when I started out. But you know what, time is important. Time is love. I don't want my important 20s to fly by just waiting to have a decent phone call or just waiting to meet once a month. I want to enjoy myself. I need the time and love. I desire it. I demand it. Call me selfish if you will, but it is important to me. It is important to evolve in a relationship. How can you allow growth when you don't even have time for each other?

I have also noticed that when you require things from a man, they will resent it. They know you need it and still won't give it to you to see the kind of response they get. Sometimes, I want to go back to being the woman who played mind games. I am not proud of it but I knew how to game with the male psyche and I always got my way. So, yes.. it  hurts me when I don't get my way now. A little bit of time is not too much to ask, in my opinion.

It is absolutely okay if you are under excruciating circumstances and cannot make time. Things happen in life and I am not selfish enough to ask for things despite knowing the situation. But you know what ticks me off? When someone has decided to be with you for a few hours, and yet not be mentally with you. Then, that time is a complete waste to me. It is a sheer waste of my time, and I can do better things within that time frame. My logic is, if you commit to something, whether it is for 20 minutes or 3 hours or a month, then be completely committed or don't sign yourself up for it. It's understandable when people are in class and they think about the entire world in that one hour lecture. Your physical presence is in class but your mental presence is elsewhere. But when you are physically present with a human being you apparently love, then your mental presence should be there too. Otherwise, you are just making the person look a fool, or like a beggar rather, waiting for attention.

And I hate it when men don't respond to words. They don't respond to the emotional drama and yelling that happens at the scene. They respond when you stop talking to them. Then, they want to have the conversation and bombard you with text messages. "No contact" is what gets them going. Why? Argh!

Time also means effort. You need to make time for your loved ones. It doesn't mean that they will slip away if you don't. They will understand when they need to. But it is hard to understand when it is an every day story continuous from many months. The relationship may not be suitable for you if it requires so much of effort. When something is right for you, it feels much more easy and comfortable. Like a good pair of PJs. The ones you climb into after getting out of your work clothes, and breathe a sigh of relief.