Snooping?

Should you snoop on your partner's accounts? (Facebook, Hotmail, Orkut etc.)?
I never needed to snoop on anybody or any one of my previous partners. I don't care if one of them cheated on me or whatever, but that intent of snooping was never there. Sure, if you give me your password and that you know I am gonna go in and see your messages - cool. If you do it sneakily, without permission - not cool.

I have already wrote a HUGE blog addressing the entire password-sharing idea. And I am definitely not a fan of it. Not because I have things to hide, but because there should be some things that I must have to myself, i.e. my password. That's why there IS a password, in the first place. I think actions speak louder than words. The trust factor is evident in a relationship, especially to guys. They are good at judging whether their girl is sincere or not. Why the need to snoop? It just gives you more reasons to doubt a person that actually may be sincere.

So, I am nice and honest and I tell people about my past - and what do they do? They pick on me about it, a lot of times and use it as a reference to other things. How cool is that? I am not saying I have never done this. Yes, I took the opportunity to venture through his computer when he was in the washroom, for a few minutes, in the first month. But that was it. Once he opened up and told me everything about him and his life, I never felt the need to go back and call him out on it. In fact, the snooping only makes sense if you doubt or suspect somebody in the initial stage of the relationship, and you wanna find out whether you're being played. But many months into the relationship, and still the need to look over and read conversations between people, NOT cool.

I mean, we all snoop on some level. Pretending to play bingo on his phone while checking the inbox messages, umm.. okay, NOT a felony. Hacking into someone's Facebook while they sleep and read their messages, YES, I will be offended. I feel that boundaries should be respected and a line should be drawn. This is a sign of utter insecurity. I would never do that, even if given the chance. I respect privacy, and I give that respect back in return. And if you are snooping and you find something that you don't like, you're gonna have to learn how to deal with it. You chose to open that can of worms, in the first place.

Snooping is basically a violation of trust and repect. If I was married, it would be a different story, because we would mutually expect more transparency. Women do not appreciate men who snoop. They might react in different ways to bring across that point, but mine is pretty straightforward. I will be angry. I don't appreciate this, at all, whatsoever. I think it's just as bad as cheating. They both are means of violating a partner's trust. It is not a matter of having nothing to hide, rather a matter of respecting your partner not to snoop around their stuff. If you doubt something, or someone in particular, JUST ASK! Let your partner know about how you feel about a particular person, and ask as many questions you like to clarify your doubts. Don't go off on your own peeping through their stuff. If you don't trust someone to really let you know what is going on, you probably shouldn't even be in a relationship with them. Jealousy and insecurity are hard to deal with.
 And in these situations, fights can really mend their way to a breakup. Because snooping is UNACCEPTABLE, in any case.