"Don't live in the past, thinking about mistakes or changes you made. Think of your life as a book, move forward, close one chapter and open another. Learn from your mistakes, but focus on your future, not on your past."
You must have heard or read this many times before and thought that it was complete bullshit. Things don't happen this way. Easier said than done, right? Absolutely true. Most of us have a hurtful past and no matter how much we try to hide it or artificially cover it and pretend that we have moved on, it still remains in the dungeons of our heart, where only we know how much it has affected it. That is why I never seek advise from anyone regarding love or relationships, because a person can't truly be put in your shoes to tell you what it is that you should do in a given situation.
Closing doors to the past is not easy, quite obviously. Makes me think... is there such thing called "closing doors?" The way our psychology works is, some things have such a profound impact on our psychological state that it just makes it hard for you to forget the events associated with it. This could do with an abusive relationship, an aggressive relationship, or just a plain hurtful relationship. Why am I talking about this? Because I ended up crying in front of three friends (you know who you are) in the middle of the night. Don't ask how and why we met up at like 3 in the morning. The most hurtful relationships are the ones without a closure. I feel bad for the people who are just blocked out of people's lives without a word being said. I am talking about something which happened 4 years ago, but the fact that it still may bring tears to your eyes posits the fact that the adolescent past is almost impossible to forget.
Our experiences of immaturity, stupidity, and our childlike beliefs about friendship, love, romance and our lens to viewing the world is completely different when we're young. We look back and smile when thinking about those naive moments. I know I do. There isn't a lesson in this blog or anything. I just wanted to put it out there. You can probably build new doors in your present to try and forget the past, but never entirely close the doors to the past.
Again, time is a great healer. It is the only effective remedy. Unfortunately, there is no formula to treat heart-breaks and disappointments in life. Thus, time could help forget feelings of grief and shock. It should be used effectively. "Time heals" could be taken as two expressions. One, we give ourselves time to pass the days trying to forget your past. Two, you live life and you engage yourself in activities that diminish your ability to constantly think about the past. So, which route are you gonna take? =)
You must have heard or read this many times before and thought that it was complete bullshit. Things don't happen this way. Easier said than done, right? Absolutely true. Most of us have a hurtful past and no matter how much we try to hide it or artificially cover it and pretend that we have moved on, it still remains in the dungeons of our heart, where only we know how much it has affected it. That is why I never seek advise from anyone regarding love or relationships, because a person can't truly be put in your shoes to tell you what it is that you should do in a given situation.
Our experiences of immaturity, stupidity, and our childlike beliefs about friendship, love, romance and our lens to viewing the world is completely different when we're young. We look back and smile when thinking about those naive moments. I know I do. There isn't a lesson in this blog or anything. I just wanted to put it out there. You can probably build new doors in your present to try and forget the past, but never entirely close the doors to the past.
Again, time is a great healer. It is the only effective remedy. Unfortunately, there is no formula to treat heart-breaks and disappointments in life. Thus, time could help forget feelings of grief and shock. It should be used effectively. "Time heals" could be taken as two expressions. One, we give ourselves time to pass the days trying to forget your past. Two, you live life and you engage yourself in activities that diminish your ability to constantly think about the past. So, which route are you gonna take? =)
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