The omnipotent truth - 'Expectations'

Hello people.

Today's blog is going to be a bit scattered in terms of thoughts. I don't really know how to put it in the best words. Everyone is familiar with "expectations." People claim that, "Oh, I don't get hurt as much because I expect the least from people." I don't think so. I think we automatically create a little package of expectations for each person we know. We keep that package in a certain boundary. When that boundary is crossed, we know that the person has not leveled up to our expectations, and we end up getting hurt. We create the boundary ourselves, as we know what to expect from each person and we function accordingly. I might make as much sense as I wanna make right now. But trust me, it sounds a lot better in my head :$

So, then... what's the deal with expectations? If you expect less, you don't get hurt? And if you expect more, you do? Is there such thing as a balanced level of expectations, where it's neutral? Well, I don't know the answers to these questions and I will not even try addressing them. But I will tell you what I have observed with experience. You might agree or disagree. Well, that's the norm.

From someone like our parents, we don't expect a lot yet it is their moral obligation to help us and give us the best in life. We take most of what they do for us as granted. But when it comes to relationships, obviously it's a whole new picture. We get hurt easily, even if the expectation is the size of a peanut; if it isn't met, we start to think obsessively about everything. One thing leads to another, and before you know it, one of you is out the door. Of course, there will be less pain if we could STOP expecting so much. But what we don't understand is that without expectations, we will go into another kind of pain - much worse.

Desires and expectations are born out of the mind. Has imagination ever been in your control? Nope. So, how can we expect to control our expectations? All we can do is just maybe lessen them and refrain from disappointments that way. This truly is a deep topic and I cannot in any way satisfy it all. I am only referring to a friend who disappointed me last night. If you're reading this, I hope you feel guilty about what you did.

Well, the truth is... no matter how beautiful, self-dependent, strong, un-emotional, insensitive, intelligent, crude, clumsy, hard on the surface you are, ALL of you have expectations even though you might not show it. It is a tough task and getting hurt is easy but then again, this is one of the ugly truths of life. So, we have to get on with it =]

Wrapping it all up, I think that human nature is designed in a way that expectations will never stop. It is not in our control, we will always expect certain things to be said or done as long as we live. No person can say that they don't expect anything from people. It isn't in your hands, you have to try reaching beyond the universe if you want it to stop. This is the sad truth of life.