Mind over heart? Vice versa?

I have been ignoring him. What do you do when your mind tells you to be rational and your heart tells you to be emotional? Where's the divide? Can you listen to both at a time and still make a sound decision? I always get overwhelmed like a million other people who feel this way.

When it comes to relationships, we all have a rough, or for most people a very strong image of the person we want to be with. That is, not only appearance but personality characteristics, stuff they shouldn't do AT ALL etc. And then girls fall for someone anyway, who is not exactly like what they were hoping for. And the weirdest part is, we always want to make a decision AFTER we fall for someone. Is he/she the right one? I am one of those people who need to know the person inside and out before making such a decision. But then there are people who commit first, and then get hurt after finding out things they should've before. Do we completely ignore a little part of our body, "the brain" when it comes to relationships?

My decisions are mostly based on experience for the most part, not on the outlook of the person. That could get me into trouble because I could generalize. But then again, how many guys are unique these days? Referring back to the title of the post, for me... it has been heart over mind for short term happiness. So, should we favor the mind if we want something more meaningful that lasts? I really don't know. I am in a state of confusion. Someone likes me. Umm, yeah. Let's just leave it at that.

As for me, mind matters over the heart. I think it's important for one to think beyond mere emotions. I know women get charmed easily and that's our downfall. We need to know that it's temporary and probably not right. If your mind tells you it ain't right, it probably isn't. We numb our brain ourselves purposely when in love. That's how we fall for traps smoothly. Our head and heart should ideally balance out. But as we all know, it's only in the words and does not happen often. For some strong women, it does.

I want to categorize myself in one of those. I haven't made too many mistakes in terms of guys. In fact, probably only one. And I keep that lesson with me at all times. Nothing speaks louder than one's real life experience. I am sure some of you must have experienced staying in a relationship that you knew wasn't good for you, yet you did it anyway. It's common with women when their mind tells them to let go and heart pleads for them to hold on. Please don't force your relationships. If you are forcing yourself to stay when you should really let go, it's not meant to be. I am not a love doctor or anything neither will I ever be one. I am only saying what I feel about this.

You can stay and be miserable if you want, I know some of you choose to do that on your own, for that temporary happiness and long-term misery. What we must do is learn to accept reality. Easier said than done, I understand but ultimately, that's what you're gonna have to do. Some of us learn the hard way. When you're mind is all made up about a person and you know it's wrong, please don't refuse to listen to your mind. Your heart is going to dominate you and you're going to be trapped in a struggle. Some of you I know are going through this and this post is for you girls. You know who you are. All I wanna say is, be careful.. sometimes there isn't a way out and you might not be able to get out later. As I mentioned in the "most awaited blog".. what most women lack is "control." We need to control where we're going to use our mind and heart and believe me, it will cause us less pain and misery.