Today's blog is just dedicated to a portion of the troubles people go through, in love.
A lot of people are together for different reasons. Back in the day, love was the lasting kind, fairy-tale sort. These days, people have a 'purpose' for being with someone. The reasons are so shallow.
Again, I am not speaking for the world here but just on behalf of what I have seen.
Are you unhappy? Then why are you with him/her? Okay, yes. There are stronger feelings than happiness that don't let you leave the person. But for how long? I know about a dozen girls who know that their boyfriends are cheating on them or talk to their ex girlfriends. I also know some who say they will not marry their girlfriends. Then, who are you? Another option? You are permitting the guys to use you and when they're done, they will go off and marry another girl. Is that the type of love you want in life? If it is, go for it. But if not, then you need to stop.
Yes, fighting love is difficult. Sometimes, impossible. But you gotta do it. It's important for you to be happy in love. Love is not misery. Then why put yourself through hell? Why always be wrapped up in feelings of sadness, hopelessness, unimportance and nostalgia? When it all builds up, you cry yourself to sleep at night. And not let him know about it. Your heart is crying for him. But you can't make him understand. Why do you want to be an empty person?
I met Arshia for dinner today. My friend from high school. She said to me, "you are a changed person, Aditi." Yes, I am glad you noticed the change. People aren't born tough, there are situations which make you that way. We spend our life being naive, and purposely foolish, searching for answers. But when we grow old, look back at the past and the things we have done, we gain a deeper understanding of ourself. Sometimes, it takes us a little while until we see the big picture. And for all the naive girls out there, who are making sacrifices such as failing midterms, betraying parents and whatever else for your boyfriends; you will look back at this and feel foolish. This is life. People change, grow more mature, and discover the harsh realities of love and life.
It's so hard for me to tell my friends, the ones who are constantly getting cheated upon; to stop doing that to themselves. No one deserves it. Then there are some people who tend to 'forgive' cheaters. Haha, I pity you. Once a cheater, always a cheater. There is no room for doubt there. Girls tend to be idiotic themselves, guys play a minor role in fooling them. We are our own enemies. We need to learn to fight emotions, and understand that sometimes you have to think beyond sensitivity and love. Guys play games, lie, and do hurtful things. But you are the one choosing to be a part of that. That is, if you know it already.
If you are a victim of this, and know exactly what I am talking about; you need to STOP doing that to yourself and start living life. Stop thinking he will change or be good to you in the near future. There are no maybes in love. Either you love someone or you don't. Don't sit there wondering "maybe he loves me."
It is good to be in love, but not the kind that takes away your happiness. Not the kind that swipes your smile off your face. Not the kind that makes it hurt so much that you think of dying. Live a little. Love a little. If it is not meant to be, nothing will happen. But if it is, it will happen. Stop trying to make things happen for you. It just doesn't work that way, trust me. You just need to live your life and have fun. Fate will take care of the rest.
Note: I understand that this blog is capable of some heavy controversial debate that will forever go-on. But this post it dedicated to a friend who is experiencing most of this. It's to empower her, not to degrade men in general.
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